You cancel plans because your partner seems quiet. You answer a friend's late-night crisis text, again, even though work starts at 7 a.m. You say you're fine so often you've stopped checking whether it's true. Maybe you are reading this. Asking how to stop being codependent, or maybe the word does not seem to fit you. No matter what, loving people a lot is not a mistake. The problem begins when taking care of others slowly makes you forget about your life. What comes next is